Grey ~ without interest or character; dull nondescript, relating to old people, having grey hair. “She’s getting on a bit and going grey” is the actual Webster’s dictionary definition.
This definition is exactly how our society looks at aging people, dull and nondescript.
Deciding to let my hair go grey at 56 was a huge emotional decision. I agonized over it tremendously. I was now entering a new universe that I wasn’t sure how to navigate. It took me a little over a year to transition to full grey. The reaction to this process was one of disdain from many. I would get comments like “You look better with colored hair.” “Why on earth would you do that to yourself.” “You look so much older.” “Never let your grey hair grow long.” Have you heard any of these phrases or used any of them?
My world as I knew it changed drastically with this new grey hair. There was a time when I would walk into a room, and I was instantly seen and acknowledged. Grey hair has the effect of an invisibility cloak. I began to assess this theory wherever I went. The fact that I do things without even being noticed was overwhelming. I sat at a church event at a table by myself on purpose. Not one person made eye contact, smiled, or even looked my way. Finally, a few people sat at my table. They were strangers to each other as well. I waited. They began to talk to each other with typical conversations. No one looked my way or acknowledged my existence. I was truly invisible.
Women being overlooked with grey hair can be attributed to our society and unrealistic beauty standards. Grey hair has often been linked to aging. Some people perceive women with grey hair as less attractive or less valuable. Media, advertising, and popular culture have often pushed these ideas. They contribute to the notion that maintaining a youthful appearance is essential for women’s social acceptance.
I choose to not be invisible. I rock my hair, and I do not go unseen. I will not be dismissed because society thinks I am dull, nondescript and of no value.
rules to rocking grey hair
- Long grey hair should be sported proudly, rock the ponytail, braids or messy buns
- Funky or wild haircuts that express your personality and youthfulness
- Do not put yourself in a box to look like everyone else, be fun funky and fabulous
- Proudly show off your silver streaks, you earned it
Going grey is a fierce act of bravery
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